Are you so overcommitted in the service of others that you don’t tend to your own needs first?
We should never put ourselves last and overcommit to others’ needs over our own. You’d assume that if you put yourself first then that means you are being selfish, but it’s not. Being selfish is when you decide what’s better for someone else’s life, deciding what’s best for your life isn’t an act of selfishness it’s an act of self-love. Being the number one on your list makes you stronger, helps you become the best version of yourself, and then you can support your loved ones better. It doesn’t mean doing what you want to do all the time. It doesn’t mean ignoring the needs of others. It’s all a matter of priorities and understanding the interplay between taking care of yourself and others. When we don’t put ourselves first, others see that attitude and will start being more dependent on us because you show that you will sacrifice whatever’s yours to make others happy. This could also result in you being used by others and you get disappointed when others don’t attend to your needs. This is why self-love is so important, to help ourselves first, spend a good amount of time learning more about ourselves and establishing what serves us and what doesn’t. To make sure you aren’t overexerting yourself, take a moment to reflect on whether or not you’ve really met your own needs for the day. If the answer is no, it’s probably a sign you need to shift your attention back to yourself.
Always remember, you are important, you deserve your own time and space every day so you can attend to your own needs. When you always put yourself last, you can end up burnt out, bitter, and even resentful. Become your top priority so you can be the best you. There may be billions of people in this world but there is only one you.
Here are 3 ways to not put yourself last:
1. Learn to say no more often
2. Prioritize what really matters
3. Stay consistent